Forever and a day, and then some, people have been having trouble in their romantic relationships. Sometimes two people enter into a relationship that was never meant to be. Other times they just need to find resolution to conflicting issues so they can continue to live in harmony together.

It is common experience that no matter how secure your relationship with your partner or spouse is; you cannot escape conflicts. From a simple argument to a full-blown fight, conflicts can leave us emotionally bruised and take a toll on the relationship.

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Find out if your relationship is in trouble and resolve the issues using these tips

Identify the problem or issues. Have a discussion to understand both sides of the problem, conflicts, needs and preferred outcomes. Clarify to each other exactly what the conflict or problem involves. This is the initial stage where you say what you want and you listen to what your partner wants. The goal at this stage is for you each to clearly express what you each want and to understand what the other wants. Use I message language and avoid the blaming you messages. Also use your active listening skills when you listen to your partner’s side.

Accept that there are at least two points of view. In most situations or disagreements, there are at least two points of view or two ways of looking at something.  By approaching a difference in opinion with this premise in mind, you automatically keep yourself open to resolving the conflict or finding a compromise.

When a caring attitude is combined with effective communication skills, the road to healthy conflict resolution is free of these obstacles. Conflict can be defined in terms of the issues that caused it, the strategies used to address it, and the outcomes that follow from it.

Strategies for resolving or preventing the development of conflict can be classified as avoidance, diffusion, or confrontation.

Emotional awareness is the key to understanding yourself and others. If you don’t know how you feel or why you feel that way, you won’t be able to communicate effectively or smooth over disagreements. Although knowing your own feelings may seem simple, many people ignore or try to sedate strong emotions like anger, sadness, and fear. But your ability to handle conflict depends on being connected to these feelings. If you’re afraid of strong emotions or if you insist on finding solutions that are strictly rational, your ability to face and resolve differences will be impaired.

When emotions flare up, it’s difficult to look at things with a clear head. In the heat of the moment, you sometimes end up doing or saying something you don’t really mean.

When things turn ugly, perhaps it’s best to back off a little bit and cool down for a while. Go out for a walk or call your partner later. It’s not like there’s anything you can do at the moment. You’ll only risk aggravating the situation even more.

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As much as you and your partner love each other, there will always be problems and little disagreements between the two of you. In these instances, it is useful to have a few conflict resolution strategies for couples under your sleeve. With these tactics, you’re more likely to resolve whatever issue you’re dealing with successfully.

You and your partner should never keep a running tally of “wins” and “losses” in your negotiations.

Sadly this is one of the biggest mistakes that I see couples make. Believe me, most people won’t admit this out loud, but they’re keeping score internally, just waiting for the day they finally get to “win.” When you hear your partner (or yourself) complain, “You always get your way. It’s my turn now!” it’s time to realize that score is being kept.

Use “I” statements instead of “you” statements. This helps to keep both sides from getting on the defensive. Realize that words are important. They can be delivered in such a way as to either bring healing or destruction. When the word “you” is used frequently when speaking to your partner, he/she will automatically feel accused. This in turn can provoke unnecessary reactions that will only serve to keep you both from resolving the issues in the most simple and straightforward manner.